Obituary of Jason Robert Flett

Jason Robert Flett was born on September 30, 1983 in Stettler, Alberta. He was the first born of Brady and Norma Flett. In 1994 the family moved to Athabasca and back to the Mirror area in 1996. Jason graduated from Lacombe Composite High School. He worked various jobs in Stettler and in August of 2003 he moved to Kelowna. He worked various jobs in the Kelowna area and while he was there got to know his uncles Phil and Shawn better, his cousin, Dwayne and Dwayne’s daughter, Kate. In April of 2011 Jason found his soul mate, Stephanie and the light in his eyes came back, according to his brother, Justin and sister, Sheena. They moved to their house in Mirror in January of 2012. On November 1, 2012, Jason and Stephanie’s most precious gift was born, their daughter Ryan Taylor. Jason’s façade of being “hard” was crushed the moment he held his baby in his arms and his tender heart shone through even more than it always had. Jason, Stephanie and Ryan enjoyed the August long weekend at Shuswap Lake and made the best memories. They talked about their future plans and dreams. He enjoyed his work with DNR as a heavy equipment operator and had just returned to Fort McMurray. It was there that he passed away quietly in the early morning hours on August 7, 2014. Jason leaves the hugest hole in the heart of his soul mate, Stephanie, his precious daughter, Ryan, his sister, Sheena, his brother Justin (Falhado) nephew, Jaxson and niece, Georgia, his loving parents, Brady and Norma, mother and father in law, Petrina and Tom Beale and kids, his father in law, Brock Busby as well as too many dear friends to count. He was predeceased by his Grandma Pruden and Great Grandma and Grandpa Mohr. Jason Flett came into our lives on Sept 30, 1983. He was born in the Stettler Hospital. Jason taught Brady and I what true love is. Our hearts were over flowing with a love that was so amazingly strong. He was an incredibly loving child. There was so much love. 14 months later Justin was born and Jason loved and bonded with him the moment he saw Justin. They were inseparable. All of our friend would say to us how they have never see two sibling get along as well as our boys did. They never fought it was so easy to raise and be with our boys. They just loved each other so much. Sheena came along 6 1/2 years later and Jason fell in love with her the moment he laid eyes on her. They too were inseparable and Sheena idolized her big brother. Jason played minor hockey and enjoyed the sport and did his very best even though he did not have a competitive bone in his body. We moved to Athabasca in 1994. Jason was about 12 and he came to me very upset one day and asked me if I knew why Sheena would not have anything to do with him so I told him I would try to find out. So I went to Sheena (about 5 years old at the time) and asked her why she had shunned Jason and she said it was because he had a wart on his thumb. We all had a good laugh about that. Our kids were incredibly close and for the most part got along very well. But when they didn't and if Justin was mad at Sheena - Jason always took Sheena’s side no matter how wrong Sheena was and if Jason was mad at Sheena - Justin took Sheena’s side. Sheena was always protected by her boys. We moved back to the Stettler area in the summer of 1996. It was so good to be back home near my mom. My kids adored their grandma Pruden. Gramms was one of Jason's favourite people on earth. He loved his grandma P so much. While living at home Jason enjoyed drawing and music and moto cross racing. He did very well for once again not being competitive. Brady has spoken lots of how at a race Jason would come into a corner but would not have the heart to squeeze the other riders out. It was amazing he won as much as he did. We had so many great times at Moto Cross Races. It was family time with a really amazing group of people. Jason moved home after living in Stettler for a couple of years when I got cancer and was doing chemo. He looked after Sheena, Randi and John for me. He drove them to school everyday and then would come home and spend the day with me so I was never alone. He helped around the house. Jason would walk with me into Mirror and back almost every day to help keep my strength up. The very best part of those trips were the long in-depth talks we had. They were such precious moments for me and I knew deep in my heart that the time was coming soon to let him go. I had finished chemo and Jason felt that I was healthy enough that he could leave. That dreaded day came and he said he did not know where he was headed but he wanted to hitch hike. I am so sure I have never cried more in my life as the day he left. I tried to talk him out of hitch hiking and I would pay for any flight to anywhere for him but he would not hear of it so I drove him to highway 2 and he headed south. I was crying hysterically all the way home. He had no problem getting rides and one was with a woman and children which always amazed me that a woman would pick up a guy so big. He arrived in Kelowna. He worked at various jobs but his main ones were working for his uncle Shawn and then Brady's cousin Dwayne. He finally met the love of his life, Stephanie. Stephanie and her mom, Petrina and step dad, Tom took our boy into their lives and into their home. They truly saved Jason's life. In time Jason brought Steph home and they started a life in Mirror. Jason adored Stephanie and once again found someone he was inseparable with. Stephanie was Jason's soul mate. I cannot ever remember seeing them fight. They were in sync with each other. It is a rarity to see two people enjoy each other’s company as much as they did. Jason worked for DNR and spoke very highly of his job and of the people he worked for. In 2012 Jason’s most precious little angel Ryan was born. Jason's heart was beaming with love and pride when he brought her in to see us. He was over the moon. When Jason was not at work he was doting over Steph and Ryan. I was thinking about all the time he spent with them and I realized that in the short year and 9 months of Ryan's life she had more quality time with her daddy than most people have in a life time. Jason was the most loving and incredible father that I have known which did not surprise anyone one who knew him. There was no one more important to him than Stephanie and Ryan and just a millimitre below that was his family and close friends. When Jason died we as a family have talked in great detail of the cause of Jason's death. Jason had a problem with drugs. We have talked about whether or not it was a shameful way to die and Brady has helped all of us realize it is not. Our son had an addiction. Jason was able to free himself of it for quite a while. I remember the day he was clean from all drugs and how proud I was of him. I told him I would not be prouder if he had graduated from medical school. It must have been incredibly hard to overcome something that has such a strong hold on you. Unfortunately he was not able to stay there. I believe now looking back that he should have gotten counselling to get to the root of the problem and to learn skills in order to cope without the use of drugs. There may be people here who are judging our son for the choices he made and if so we would like to tell you that it did not change Jason's character and it did not define who he was. Our son had the biggest heart. He loved deeply and unconditionally but when a person loves as deeply as Jason did - the opposite is true. When Jason was hurt or disappointed in someone it hurt him to the very core of his being. I remember when Jas had been on his own for a while. He came home and told me that he did not know how cruel the outside world was and that I had somehow protected him from that. He was so disappointed in humanity. Knowing my son the way I did - I believe that is why he used drugs. It eased the emotional pain of this world and life. The reason I even speak of this is to plea as a mother to anyone who is using drugs or experimenting to go get help. It is not a weakness to get help from someone who understands how drugs or alcohol works and to get the skills to deal with your pain in a positive and healthy manner. Jason is in heaven with God and his Gramms and Milenko and Tracy. I understand that there is no better place to be and one day our family will be reunited but in the meantime our hearts have been broken and we have a hole in our hearts the size of the sun. We miss Jason so much. Jason was an incredible asset to our family. And if I could only use one word to describe Jason it would be “loyal”. Jason we are and will always be so incredibly proud of you and we all feel so blessed that you were a part of our lives for a short 31 years. We will never let Ryan forget her very special daddy who loved her more than life. There is no way she will ever forget your love as it is within her. Until we meet in heaven we will miss you and continue to love you from this world. We love you Jason with all our hearts and souls. You were and will always be a bright light in our lives. Love mom and dad Celebration of Life Thursday, August 14, 2014 at 11:00 A.M. Stettler Community Hall, Stettler, Alberta Donations in memory of Jason are gratefully accepted at ATB Financial for Stephanie and Ryan (cheques payable to: In Trust of Jason Flett) or a charity of your choice. The family of Jason Flett would like to thank all of our dear friends and family for the support that we received in our darkest moment. Thank you for all the early morning to late night visits, food, flowers, cards, phone calls, texts, Facebook messages, gifts, the use of the RVs, and the posts on the SFH website. Thank you for your love, friendship, prayers and everyone who attended Jason's Memorial Service. For all the yard work that was done. For the reminiscing of our dear precious Jason around the campfire and on the deck. We have never felt more loved or supported in our entire life and words would never begin to express the gratitude and appreciation we have in our hearts. Thank you for helping us through the most difficult time of our lives. We will forever keep you in our hearts and minds. Thank you to the people who basically lived at our home for three weeks and did everything we didn't have the strength to do. Thank you to Stettler Funeral Home for the excellent care, Catrina Dubitz Catering for the excellent meal and our three dear friends who served the food. With our deepest love, Sheena, Stephanie, Ryan, Justin, Falhado, Jaxson, Georgia, Brady and Norma